Tuesday, May 31, 2011
Namgay and the Cat
In Bhutan we have Geymo the cat. In Nashville we have Poofie. We need a cat in the Nashville house because we have lots of field mice. Poofie was feral and lived in the woods around our house. She was a killing machine so her name, selected by Namgay, is ironic. We'd always find pieces of little animals on our steps as offerings from her night hunting. Slowly, Namgay tamed her and now she lives inside among the needlepoint. She and Namgay have a routine: in the middle of the night sometimes she wakes us up with a staccato me me me noise that sounds like our burglar alarm. It means she's caught a mouse. But now she doesn't kill. She waits for Namgay to jump out of bed and grab the plunger. Her work is done. She moves aside and Namgay chases down the mouse and traps it under the plunger. Then he slips a piece of cardboard underneath, sealing the mouse in. He takes it outside and lets it go beside the pond, so that he or she can find its way back to the house another night, I always think. Namgay's turned our cat into a Buddhist.
Friday, May 27, 2011
Equanimity
Recently I was invited by a group of women to visit their book group because MARRIED TO BHUTAN was their read for May. They'd been coming together to talk about books once a month for 13 years, which is amazing. While we sat and had an elegant dinner, I found myself asking them questions. The eight women were very accomplished, gorgeous, articulate-- a very impressive bunch. Most were married with children, and they talked about their kids, their friends, and their jobs. One woman's child was leaving soon to do a volunteer work/vacation in Fiji. They were lawyers, university researchers, psychologists, and one had, that very day, sold her successful organic bakery and was planning to become a professional gardener. They seemed to defy the maxim: You can't have it all. They had everything, including the stress that invariably accompanies fabulous, busy lives. It occurred to me they wouldn't have had that much to relate to in my book. They said they enjoyed the book and loved the idea of escaping "the hamster wheel of doom," although I'm certain none of them would want to change much in their lives, except maybe their stress levels. Community is one way, being a part of a group and doing something you enjoy, like having a book group or a bowling league. It's not that there's no stress in Bhutan. It's just different stress. What I learned living there is to manifest equanimity, an evenness in your thinking that can affect everything you do and ultimately take away a lot of stress. It makes you happier. You can do more and deal with more if you're balanced. To practice equanimity, be aware of thoughts you have and especially note if they are positive or negative. Try to neutralize charged thoughts. Try to manifest calmness, evenness, a steady mind in the face of hostility, strong emotion, or overcommitment. Just start by being aware of your thoughts.
Sunday, May 22, 2011
Washington DC
We had a great Bhutanese evening at Asia Society in Washington DC last Thursday night and got to talk with so many Bhutanese and friends of Bhutan. It was wonderful. Thanks to Leah Siskin and everyone at the Asia Society, Bruce Bunting, Tsewang Wangchuk, Tshering Yangzom, and Dawa Tshering at the Bhutan Foundation, and special thanks to Daw Gyem, Dr. Leki, Karma Thinley, Rinzin Wangchuk, Eric Weiner, and James Foster for their great contributions to the evening. We loved Washington and Namgay especially liked touring the National Gallery and the Capitol. We were also happy to finally meet Kate Fincham, director of Health Volunteers Overseas. We've emailed for years because HVO sends an American orthopedist every month to Bhutan to volunteer at the hospital in Thimphu. In fact, an American orthopedist and at least one physical therapist have been coming each month to Thimphu since 1990. Namgay and I have met many of them and count them as friends. We like to think of ourselves as unofficial liaisons. Kate says it's the most popular of all the HVO programs. They are all exceptional, and many of them come back more than once.
Friday, May 13, 2011
Asia Society May 19th and Book Babes!
Namgay and I will be at the Asia Society in Washington DC on May 19th to show his art work and talk about Bhutan. Very excited! And Namgay will get to see Washington DC. Here's a link to the Asia Society event. If you're in the DC area, please come! http://bit.ly/lam8D0
And here's a picture Namgay painted that belongs to our friend Mary Kaye, given to her by her sweet husband Louis for her anniversary last year. Of course it's very auspiciuos to give a dragon for any occasion. We went to Mary Kaye's last week for a meeting of the Book Babes book club to talk about MARRIED TO BHUTAN and it was a lot of fun! The Book Babes liked me okay, and they were very nice and asked me lots of questions about the book. But they LOVED Namgay. He even brought a gho, the Bhutanese national dress for men and he modeled it for them. I kept a close eye because several of the Babes wanted to "feel the fabric." When I said it was time to go, they said okay and offered to bring Namgay home later. Seriously, they were a fun group, and I have been bothering Mary Kaye to send pictures she took at the event. I hope she will so I can post them.
And here's a picture Namgay painted that belongs to our friend Mary Kaye, given to her by her sweet husband Louis for her anniversary last year. Of course it's very auspiciuos to give a dragon for any occasion. We went to Mary Kaye's last week for a meeting of the Book Babes book club to talk about MARRIED TO BHUTAN and it was a lot of fun! The Book Babes liked me okay, and they were very nice and asked me lots of questions about the book. But they LOVED Namgay. He even brought a gho, the Bhutanese national dress for men and he modeled it for them. I kept a close eye because several of the Babes wanted to "feel the fabric." When I said it was time to go, they said okay and offered to bring Namgay home later. Seriously, they were a fun group, and I have been bothering Mary Kaye to send pictures she took at the event. I hope she will so I can post them.
Wednesday, May 11, 2011
All About the Magic
Here's why I love BookMan BookWoman in Hillsboro Village-- and Davis Cookware and Pangaea and of course The Pantry.
Tuesday, May 10, 2011
Monday, May 2, 2011
I'm Reading Married to Bhutan at BookMan BookWoman
If you're in Nashville, come to the Cinco de Mayo celebration this Thursday at the Art Walk in Hillsboro Village. I'll excited to be reading some of Married to Bhutan at BookMan BookWoman, the wonderful bookstore in Nashville that has great books and fantastic events. Thanks to the dedication and energy of Saralee and Larry Woods, Nashville is still a happening book town. Reading starts a little after 5.
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